By Dan Lentz
1. Arrange your small group into subgroups of 3-4 people. Give each subgroup a section of newspaper and a roll of tape and challenge them to build the tallest tower they can using the materials provided. They have three minutes to complete the task. After the three minutes are up ask:
• What did this exercise demonstrate about your personality type (leader, follower, competitive, action-oriented, idea oriented)?
• Even though you were not instructed to compete with the other groups, did you feel like it was a competition? Did you view the other groups as the “enemy?”
2. Do you have enemies? If so, who are they? How has your view of enemies changed from when you were younger?
3. Have you ever had a situation where you had to forgive an enemy? What was that like? What made it possible for you to forgive the person?
4. What are some practical ways we can love our enemies? How can we go the extra mile for our enemies?
5. Plan an outreach event your group can do together to build relationships with nonbelievers and show them the love of Christ through relational interaction. Perhaps it could be an evening of fun and games. Perhaps someone in your group has special skill or knowledge to share with others (such as nutritional counseling or financial advice). Plan an event that would benefit others and invite them to come and share an evening with you around that theme. After you have built a relationship with these new folks, invite them to become part of your small group.
Dan Lentz works for the Small Group Network in Whitestown, Indiana.